Experiencing periods of uncertainty in life are completely normal and unavoidable.
No matter how much clarity and purpose you usually have, there will be times when you feel like your next step is unclear.
It can be so frustrating and disheartening.
I'm not going to lie, when parts of my life feel unclear it really nags at me.
My brain seems to be constantly trying to work out how the puzzle so that I can feel clear and sure again.
Are you the same?
I have done serious time in these phases (and will, no doubt, be in them again). Thankfully, I've had some extra breakthroughs and clarity recently to help you when you're in a foggy funk.
Here are five ways to deal gracefully and proactively with uncertainty so that even when you feel like you're standing still you keep progressing.
1. Make space
Ah space, there's a reason that we all want high ceilings, wide open spaces and clean houses (or is that just me?!).
In the absence of high ceilings and an immaculate home overlooking a national park, you can make space in other ways.
Declutter, do your filing, clean out your wardrobe. Clean your desktop icons.
Drop commitments you hate, that drain you or that you just grew out of somewhere along the way.
Find and make time just for you to be peaceful and quiet.
I guarantee that making space in your life, physically, energetically or emotionally, will bring you peace, clarity and at the very least, satisfaction!
2. Change what you need to
If you've had a whispering inside you that something needs to change, whether big or small, when you're feeling unclear is a perfect time to make that change.
From what I've seen and experienced, it can be precisely those changes we have been ignoring that block us from clarity.
It's almost like the universe has a rule that says you don't get dessert (clarity) without eating your unappealing dinner!
3. Tweak your perspective
If you're telling yourself that not having clarity about your next steps sucks and will never change, now is the time to think about that thought.
It's causing you suffering.
It's not true. Is it? Really?
Do you feel that it's true in your body, deep down?
So rewrite that idea and come up with one that is more truthful and less painful.
"I'm being asked to wait until the time is right".
4. Don't mistake ignoring something you don't like for a lack of clarity
Ah guilty. Sometimes feeling unclear is actually just us refusing to see what needs to change or what we are called to do right now.
Life feeling unclear is not about lack of clarity at all, it's about not liking what life is telling you!
5. Trust and wait
Eventually, things will become clear. Have faith, this too shall pass.
You can work through these steps alone or talk to a friend but if you'd like to supercharge things with professional support, I'm here to help you find the clarity and purpose you crave. Make a free 60 minute appointment now (select a time below)!
Big love and courage to you!
Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I coach successful 30 and 40 somethings who want more fulfilling or bigger careers but doubt themselves and their options. I help them get out of their own way, find direction and go for what they really want.