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A blog by Dr Lara Corr

 

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Where ADHDers shine or struggle as managers at work.

If you are a manager AND you have ADHD wiring, here are some areas to lean into and some to watch out for ⬇️

If you are a manager AND you have ADHD wiring, here are some areas to lean into and some to watch out for ⬇️

* ADHD advantages as a manager *

You are likely to be great at motivating your team and bringing enthusiasm to the day when you're in the zone.

You will bring innovative solutions to problems and encourage creativity in your team.

You are more likely to tune into what your staff enjoy and help them do more of it and organise tasks so that people get to focus more on what they are good at and get a buzz from - it gives you a buzz too.

* Things to watch out for as a manager with ADHD *
Not giving honest feedback to staff as you are scared of hurting their feelings or being disliked and rejected.

Managing intense feelings such as overwhelm, irritation or frustration when things aren't going well with the team.

Avoiding the work you don't find interesting - some of this can be worked around through delegation to team members that enjoy or don't mind what you hate!

Does any of this ring true for you?

Pay attention to where you shine - I bet you are doing a beautiful job!! In the places you find things more challenging there are ways to honour your wiring and not get caught in a situation that feels awful and makes your work or team suffer.

Are you ready to up level your professional skills and work-life happiness? I have TWO private 1:1 sessions available in May.

Book your consult here: https://lnkd.in/gmvVXCEV

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Work-life balance is never going to happen.

Let's stop aiming for 'work-life balance', shall we?! It makes us feel like we have failed at work AND at home because tell me - Who has it 'balanced'?

What we really need is for the amount of time or energy spent in each place to feel 'right' for us. We also need to have minds that can focus on work when we are there and be present in our personal lives away from work.

Let’s talk about how to create clarity and presence so that you can have more work-life harmony.

Let's stop aiming for 'work-life balance', shall we?!

It makes us feel like we have failed at work AND at home because tell me - Who has it 'balanced'?

What we really need is for the amount of time or energy spent in each place to feel 'right' for us.

You can work that out by tuning into your body. That right feeling comes up as peace, contentment or ease.

For some of you work-life contentment looks like full time work, for some 4 long days or 3 short days or 2 half days.

It is completely unique to you and your situation.

We also need to have minds that can focus on work when we are there and be present in our personal lives away from work.

This means leaving work at work and home at home.

This skill comes from knowing how to manage your thoughts and emotions.

It looks like not imagining worse case scenarios when we are away from work or away from home.

It means noticing our inner critics and how they try to help us by worrying or beating us up and telling them: "It's okay, we've got this".

It means not worrying about the fact you never mastered Japanese or didn't learn to play the piano but instead acting on the things you REALLY want, that fill up your cup.

If you want to feel great about your work-life, you just need to get intentional about it.

You can feel so much better and is so much easier than your brain is telling you with the right help.

Commit to you and a more peaceful, fulfilling work-life.

Love and courage,

Lara

P.S. Want more clarity and contentment in your work-life? Book a free consult with me here! https://setmefree.as.me/consult

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'Be realistic' is terrible advice for women.

What comes to mind when someone says to you 'Be realistic'?

It's about dampening down your expectations, hopes and dreams.

Bringing you back down to 'earth', as the result you want is deemed unlikely.

BUT the 'earth' for women, the status quo that we have been raised with, although shifting, is still LOW LOW LOW.

What comes to mind when someone says to you 'Be realistic'?

It's about dampening down your expectations, hopes and dreams.

Bringing you back down to 'earth', as the result you want is deemed unlikely.

BUT the 'earth' for women, the status quo that we have been raised with, although shifting, is still LOW LOW LOW.

The baseline is that we should be thankful we get to work, go to university and create careers.

That we shouldn't expect too much, be 'too much' or ask for 'too much' - too much for a woman seems to be anything that makes anyone uncomfortable.

That we should resign ourselves to being stressed out, doing everything for others, hating ourselves a bit and saying 'Oh but I can't complain....'

Being 'realistic' for women is terrible advice because 'realism' is a system that benefits from women being kept in lower roles, serving others and neglecting themselves.

I don't want you to be realistic.

I want you to find what lights you up and ways to love yourself so hard you blow light bulbs with your power.

I want you to strip back and challenge what is keeping you unhappy at work and transform it into liberation.

First we learn the tools, then we rise together.

This Sunday we start Better Work in 60 Days. Get your place here and screw realistic, let's go for happy tears beautiful https://setmefree.pages.ontraport.net/BetterWork

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Stuck on making a decision about your work-life?

One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.

They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:

  • Staying in or leaving their job.

  • Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.

  • Changing fields

  • Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)

  • If they should go for a new job or promotion

At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!

A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.

One of the most common reason women come to me is for help making a career decision.

They are spinning in indecision about choices such as:

  • Staying in or leaving their job.

  • Increasing or decreasing hours for family reasons.

  • Changing fields

  • Doing extra study (Masters, PhD)

  • If they should go for a new job or promotion

At the root of indecision is being smart enough to think through all the pros and cons!

A new skill you need is to know exactly what YOU want and then to get your mind on board to support and enable you to act.

That's what I teach in Week Two of Better Work in 60 Days.

https://setmefree.pages.ontraport.net/BetterWork

You will learn how to make decisions that are right for you every time.


You will gain SO MUCH TIME and lose so much emotional stress and heaviness.

I can't wait to share it so you can use it whenever and wherever you need!

Register now for Better Work in 60 Days - it starts this Sunday!

https://setmefree.pages.ontraport.net/BetterWork

Love and courage,

Lara xx

P.S. If you are having trouble deciding whether or not to do the course, this is your reason to do it! The investment for learning just this tool is worth 100 times the price. Full stop.

https://setmefree.pages.ontraport.net/BetterWork

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What do you need today?

You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?

You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.

Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.

Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.

It is part of life's 50/50.

You know when you wake up and just want to stay in bed all day?

You might be sick, exhausted, have chronic conditions or be emotionally flat or anxious.

Maybe it's PMS or some family issue.

Whatever the reason, it's normal to have days when you feel blah.

It is part of life's 50/50.

The first thing to do is not to make it mean anything awful.

If your brain is anything like mine, it will go into problem solving mode.

Or maybe you go into panic stations or catastrophising with all sorts of thoughts about how bad this is and what is wrong and how long will it last and how your day is ruined and your work is a disaster and you'll end up homeless.

Let's put the brakes on both approaches for a minute.

It's important to let your body know, with genuine compassion, that it's part of life to feel blah sometimes.

Then to decide to take good care of yourself, trusting you know how.

Get the help you need medically if that is necessary, otherwise, go gently, asking yourself, what would make right now feel better?

Perhaps some tea, music, a hug or petting your cat or dog.

Calling a friend or colleague and letting them know you're feeling blah.

Take turtle steps = small, individual, simple steps forward to get your work done...

OR take a sick or mental health day and choose not to dwell on the fact that you have done so.

You'll know what you need.

Trust yourself.

It's time to love your work!

Big love,

Lara xx


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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Increasing your confidence at work - starting today.

Confidence is trust in yourself.

Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?

I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.

Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.

Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.

Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.

Confidence is trust in yourself.

Do you struggle with a lack of self-confidence at work?

I think we have a strange idea of what confidence is.

Yes, it is about a positive view of ourselves and our capacity but to me, it's more than that.

Confidence is about trusting ourselves to be able to be resourceful and to survive or even thrive under difficult circumstances.

Building confidence can start very simply and powerfully by looking back at all the times you were resourceful and persisted.

Write or type out a brainstorm of all the hard things you have done at work.

Large or small, they all give you evidence.

This evidence can be the foundation of your self-trust or your confidence.

Over time, when you bring attention to and celebrate your persistence and ability to get results you will gain confidence in your ability to do manage a huge range of things.

Pay attention to building your confidence by finding evidence and watch it grow.

It's time to love your work!

Lara xx

P.S. Growing your confidence is such a reassuring and beautiful feeling and skill. Check out Smash It! to learn more about what new, wonderful things you can bring to your work-life: https://setmefree.as.me/consult


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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Do you need a time-management reset at work?

Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.

I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!

You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.

Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!

If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.

Now that I'm feeling settled into the year a bit more, I've realised that I'm not using my time nearly as well as I could be.

I'm not saying this from a perfectionistic approach, I'm saying this from a.... whoops, I stopped paying attention and my day disappeared realisation!

You know how it is, you get a little less conscious of organisation or of following through with your plans.

Before you know it, you're losing chunks of time that you could be doing great things with!

If this is you, join me today to begin to reset.

  • Get back to using an organisational method that works for you (I teach calendar based organisation in Smash It!).

  • Sell yourself on how amazing it feels to get allll the sh$t done + how much more you enjoy life outside of working hours.

  • Keep bringing your focus back to what is next and do one thing at a time.

It's time to love your work!

Big love,

Lara xx

P.S. Want to be on top of your work-life organisation? https://setmefree.as.me/consult


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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What are your 'Greatest Hits' that bring you down?

Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?

Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.

Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.

You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.

Do you find yourself going round and round with the same thoughts that make you mad, sad or anxious?

Here is a fun tool that I learned from Dr Martha Beck - Your Greatest Hits.

Listen in on your mind as it goes down its usual path that takes you from, say, 'I wish that had gone better' all the way to 'I'll never be good enough'.

You might notice that you go through the same 'Greatest Hits' thoughts each time.

Most of us have about 5 that we visit regularly.

Think of them like songs that you play the most often and sing along with.

What if next time, you just saw the song on your device and decided not to sing along (believe it) or to skip it all together and listen to a song that made you feel more competent, happy or less worried?

Get to know your Greatest Hits and question them until they lose their power and you can skip them

Big love,

Lara xx

P.S. Learning to work beautifully with your mind means that you have control over so many aspects of work and life that were previously hidden from you. I'm happy to teach you how to manage your mind to get the results you want at work: https://setmefree.as.me/consult


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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The feeling of 'not enough' at work.

Today I'm thinking about the feeling of 'not enough'.

Feeling 'not enough' at work is so so common, just as it is common in life.

After all, a recent executive coaching study of over 1000 CEOs from around the world found that many doubted they were 'enough' for their role.

We all have doubts sometimes, that is normal but when we feel like we are not good enough frequently, we rarely ask ourselves what enough would look like and act like.

Today I'm thinking about the feeling of 'not enough'.

Feeling 'not enough' at work is so so common, just as it is common in life.

After all, a recent executive coaching study of over 1000 CEOs from around the world found that many doubted they were 'enough' for their role.

We all have doubts sometimes, that is normal but when we feel like we are not good enough frequently, we rarely ask ourselves what enough would look like and act like.

How 'good enough' would perform our duties at work.

Is enough about doing your best (which, sorry to say, changes each day)?

Is being enough about doing everything right or perfectly?

Is it about being enough because we are ourselves and things tick along okay?

When we don't know how we measure 'enough' we don't know how to address our sneaky, exhausting thoughts and expectations.

What would be different if you decided, just for a minute, that you were enough?

What would change?

Big love,

Lara xx

P.S. Is it time to examine those sneaky thoughts that are chipping away at your self of worth and clarity at work? Grab a spot to talk with me here: https://setmefree.as.me/consult


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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Happiness fatigue at work

I've heard it said that people miss how open others were during lockdown about their feelings.

Now that we are all out and about the masquerades begin again for many.

Something I miss about lockdown was wearing a physical mask.

Not for the comfort or pleasure of it but for the mere fact that I didn't automatically click into 'happy Lara' with every passerby catching my eye.

I've heard it said that people miss how open others were during lockdown about their feelings.

Now that we are all out and about the masquerades begin again for many.

Something I miss about lockdown was wearing a physical mask.

Not for the comfort or pleasure of it but for the mere fact that I didn't automatically click into 'happy Lara' with every passerby catching my eye.

This was my unconscious pattern.

*Must look happy, must make others feel good*

Over the two years of lockdown, my jaw got to relax as I slowly became aware that my smile reflex wasn't seen.

I started to smile only when I wanted to.

I was going through a lot of hard things with my physical and mental health and I could just have a neutral face or a sad one - whatever was true at the time.

No one could see me.

All the pressure was off.

Now that it's masks off outside again here (socially distanced) I need to make the conscious effort to keep in integrity between my inner and outer world.

It's women who are socialised to wear emotional masks of constant pleasantness.

Heaven forbid we have 'resting bitch face' or asked 'Are you okay, what's wrong?' when you're not your usual sparkly self.

What I now think is that it's time to reclaim my face and let it be free to be real.

New thoughts * I can have any facial expression I want, I don't have to make anyone feel anything *

Big love,

Lara xx


Lara Corr, PhD Pronouns She/Her
Set Me Free Coaching
Get ready to love your work!
lara@setmefree.coach

Hi, I'm Dr Lara Corr, a certified life coach and researcher in work and wellbeing. I help women love their work, reach their goals and get free from the work-life stress cycle.

Connect with me via Facebook and Instagram.

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