THE FREEDOM FILES
A blog by Dr Lara Corr
Live the Sh*t out of Your Life
How are you living your life?
Since the car accident I had four months ago, I've been working out how to live the new version of my life.
I have this atypical concussion thing going on - it looks like me getting overstimulated living normal life out in the world and passing out a whole lot. Sunlight kills me and can't go anywhere busy or noisy. I can't drive. Everything overstimulates my system except being at home, well rested and low key.
I should be depressed but I'm not.
I'm living the shit out of my life.
How are you living your life?
Since the car accident I had four months ago, I've been working out how to live the new version of my life.
I have this atypical concussion thing going on - it looks like me getting overstimulated living normal life out in the world and passing out a whole lot. Sunlight kills me and can't go anywhere busy or noisy. I can't drive. Everything overstimulates my system except being at home, well rested and low key.
I should be depressed but I'm not.
I'm living the shit out of my life.
I'm growing like a mofo.
I have harvested goodness and opportunities from this divine intervention like my life depends on it, because it does.
I have embraced what I've resisted for years and I've healed inner wounds I never thought I would.
I have learnt more about self-acceptance, patience and love.
I've never loved my husband, daughter or dog more.
I've never tenderly appreciated the beauty of the world and what others can do that I cannot (currently).
I've clarified, reshaped and refined my business to be more exciting, fulfilling and impactful.
Gloriously, I have never felt more loved, connected or more taken care of by "the Universe", God or whatever you call that mysterious, loving, peaceful amazingness we all swim in.
I have my off times, but overall, I've never felt better in my spirit and soul.
I can live the shit out of my life, even when it is seriously derailed because I know how to live an aligned life.
Aligned because I learn more about myself, what I want and what really matters to me.
Because I know how to work with my mind and listen to the incredible wisdom of my body.
Because I know more and more how to serve the world and live my purpose.
Aligned because I know that there is no such thing as a derailment at the deepest level.
Aligning to your path (mostly!) brings serenity to even the most trying of circumstances, teaching surrender, hope and joy, which supports the necessary grief, anger and tenderness needed to allow the shedding of what no longer serves us or is available for us.
We can resist and be stagnant or we can evolve and unfold.
We can all learn to live OUR version of an aligned life - now it's your turn.
Huge love,
Lara xxx
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What's your big project?
Happy February everyone!
It feels like the year has really begun, so I want to know, how is your big project going?
What's your big project?
Didn't know you had one?!
Watch the video below to find out all that and more :)
Photo by Vadim Sherbakov on Unsplash
Happy February everyone!
It feels like the year has really begun, so I want to know, how is your big project going?
What's your big project?
Didn't know you had one?!
Watch the video below to find out all that and more :)
Start daydreaming of your big project today!
Then start making any small actions towards it.
You'll be amazed at what it can do for your mood, your day and your year.
Love and blessings to you all,
Lara xx
P.S. Come on retreat! Go on, you deserve it and those around you do to. To gather more information and secure your spot for the heavenly Country Women's Retreat.
P.P.S. For personal work-life support, feel free to make an appointment for a free one-hour coaching session with me.
Four questions to help you finish 2017 with a bang!
It's so easy to move between years without taking a moment to check-in.
So, I'm going to ask you to take that moment now.
To help you move into the New Year with confidence and clarity simply ask yourself the following four questions.
Photo by Brigitte Tohm on Unsplash
It's so easy to move between years without taking a moment to check-in.
So, I'm going to ask you to take that moment now.
To help you move into the New Year with confidence and clarity simply ask yourself the following questions:
1. What stopped me from progressing this year?
So .... what do I want to let go of?
2. What brought me down (made me flat, bored, irritated)?
So .... what do I want to let go of?
3. What has helped me progress in my life?
So ... what do I need more of?
4. What has brought me joy?
So ... what do I need more of?
That's it! Simply start to let go of what is dragging you down as you consciously bring more of what helps you progress and feel energised!
Big love,
Lara xx
P.S. Wishing you a fabulous festive season, it's been an amazing year and I'm very much looking forward to continuing to bring conscious ambition into your life in the New Year. If you're ready to really dive into it, then feel free to make an appointment (below) for a free one-hour coaching session with me.
Stop looking up and start looking sideways for your next career move
Why jumping off the upward ladder and taking a side-step may be the right move to get you back onto your authentic career path.
There’s no denying I'm an ambitious lass, but what I’ve realised more over the years is that it can be easy to focus on progressing onwards and upwards in my career, simply because the opportunity is there in front of me.
But you know what, it’s not always the best way to travel.
So many of us keep going up, up, up, without ever taking a moment to step back and check-in with ourselves to shift from ambition to conscious ambition.
So, let’s do it now. Take a deep breath, relax your shoulders as you breath out, think about your current career focus and ask yourself: Do I really want this?
As a side note, if you want more help to work it out then this career clarity freebie should help.
I always find it interesting when clients have their ah-ha moment and realise they actually want to go sideways rather than up (at that time). That it's a job in a different department, project or industry that really makes them light up rather the promotion they were hell bent on.
Now I’m not saying career side-steps are right for everyone, but I do think it’s worth taking a moment to consider sideway options just as much as upward options any time you start to question your career.
Career side-steps can provide an incredible opportunity to get you back onto your authentic career path.
So, if career side-steps are so incredible then why is there a negative stigma associated with them?
I’ve discovered that the root of these strange negative stigmas more often than not come down to three questions we ask ourselves, rather than those asked by others.
1. What will others (colleagues, family, friends) think of this decision?
Many of us have been brought up in an environment that encourages hard work and the pursuit of a certain career path, one in which side-steps, or dare I say it, a change in career all together hasn’t really been a point of conversation. There’s no doubt times are changing and we’re now the ones making that change, for those alongside us, above us, and future generations.
Let me assure you that no matter how you feel others may judge you in regards to your decision, here’s what taking a career side-step truly shows:
- Bravery
- That you are serious about your career
- That you acknowledge all the effort you’ve put in over the years has enabled you to come to a point in which you can take a side-step, continuing your career progression rather than hindering it
2. Is it worth giving up a good job when I may not like the side-step?
I simply ask that you challenge the authenticity of this question…is the risk really that large?
Like any new job, whether up, down or sideways, you can usually find a similar position if you don't like your new one (I know it’s easier said than done, but it’s still true).
No experience or knowledge is wasted. It all helps you refine and define what you like and where you want to be. That's the beauty of life!
3. What if I don't get the new position?
This is often an ego problem and I'm not saying that to belittle you. When we talk about ego in this case, we are talking about feeling vulnerable.
There’s no doubt that it is vulnerable to go for a new position.
It is vulnerable to say that you want it and that you might like a change.
It is vulnerable to not get the position.
It is vulnerable to start the new position.
But here’s the thing, vulnerability is a given in life. Vulnerability is uncomfortable, it is hard, but it is also the precursor to everything good! It's intertwined within new experiences of all kinds, amazing jobs, amazing careers and amazing businesses!
So enough already with the relentless climb for climbing's sake.
It’s time to shimmy, samba or salsa your way sideways if that is what you truly desire!
Get your footing then if or when you want to, continue your climb up, providing it’s the right ladder for you.
Here's to following YOUR path!
Much love,
Lara xx
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P.P.S. There is so much more to say about career moves! If you would like support side-stepping your way to joy in your career, I can help you feel so much better at work in the meantime and to start the New Year in fine form! Simply pop your details below and we can have a complementary 60 minute career clarity session to get going.
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Want to find your purpose? It's easier than you think.
There seems to be a certain romance about 'finding our purpose' - it’s like the mystique that comes with discovering hidden treasure, as once we find it, we feel we’ll know exactly what to do to live a holistically richer life.
After 25 years I'm proud to say that I’ve finally found it, but it wasn’t what I thought it was. So to help you find yours, here's what I've finally understood about purpose and the journey towards it.
There seems to be a certain romance about 'finding our purpose' - it’s like the mystique that comes with discovering hidden treasure, as once we find it, we feel we’ll know exactly what to do to live a holistically richer life.
For 25 years I’ve been a little obsessed with finding my purpose. I've tried to track it, cried about it, and talked about it with professionals, friends and family. And after all these years, I'm proud to say that I’ve finally found it, but it wasn’t what I thought it was.
So in the hope of reducing the time of your own personal hunt here's what I've finally understood about purpose and the journey towards it.
1. Your career is not your purpose
I think what always caught me about finding my purpose was the belief that my purpose = my career. Carrying this belief, I was always searching for the 'right' career.
Now that I have found a working life that I absolutely love, I can now see that my purpose was there the whole time.
It has been there my whole life, relatively unchanged. It’s what makes me feel fulfilled, makes my body sing, and provides me with an overwhelming sense of inner peace.
My main purpose is to love people.
I can now see that I was living my purpose all those years ago when I was working at the pharmacy during my studies, and throughout most of my professional career when I interview people for health research. I continue to live it daily in the dog park, through fundraising initiatives I engage in throughout the year and of course, coaching; it just looks different in different scenarios.
So, what do you do that makes the world that little bit better?
Are you kind, creative, bold, brave? You don't have to be 100% certain. As words that you associate with your purpose come to mind, take a moment to see how each one makes your body feel, your body will tell you what’s right.
Being here to love feels fantastic in my body. What’s your body telling you about your purpose?
2. Broad is better than specific
I'm a big believer in finding a broad purpose that can be applied in many directions and situations.
I think broad purposes leave much more room for creativity and many more rungs on the board, which makes life more aligned and fulfilling.
Instead of just thinking you are here for one tiny thing, suddenly you are here for a million things.
This makes so much more sense to me.
Every day feeds into our purpose in my book.
3. Align your career with your purpose
Ideally and perhaps critically, when you get a sense of your purpose, you can express it (directly and indirectly) through your career.
It's the special sauce that makes careers deeply fulfilling.
4. Purpose is never finished
Every day is a new opportunity.
Your purpose is for you, and how you choose to show it is again your choice. No one is judging, and there’s no need to judge yourself. Simply start to bring awareness of your purpose into your everyday and learn from those opportunities you feel you’ve missed. There’s no deadline, and I know you can absolutely do it!
5. Everyone’s purpose
By the way, when it comes down to it I think everyone’s purpose is to make our world better, and part of that includes love.
So start to work with whatever purpose comes to mind and just see where the journey takes you.
I really hope these five key learnings help you find clarity in your 'purpose' too. Just remember to stay broad and kind to yourself.
I'm so excited for you to start expressing your purpose in the world, more than you already do!
Huge love,
Lara xx
P.S. If you need help finding your purpose or living it with conscious ambition, I’m here to help. Simply complete the form below for a complementary 60 minute clarity session and we can take it from there.
Fertility, work and having an incredible life
It’s not only having children, but also trying to conceive them or deciding not to have them at all that can throw your working life up in the air for reappraisal.
You may feel others start to question your career, while you question your bigger purpose in life and what you really want.
This can be particularly true if family plans don’t come together the way you hoped, or how others close to you had hoped.
Today’s blog is for women who are struggling with conceiving and/or carrying a baby, those who decide parenthood isn’t for them and everyone else who would like to support them.
Photo: Daniela Rey
It’s not only having children, but also trying to conceive them or deciding not to have them at all that can throw your working life up in the air for reappraisal.
You may feel others start to question your career, while you question your bigger purpose in life and what you really want.
This can be particularly true if family plans don’t come together the way you hoped, or how others close to you had hoped.
Today’s blog is for women who are struggling with conceiving and/or carrying a baby, those who decide parenthood isn’t for them and everyone else who would like to support them.
So first things first, don’t ask people about when they are having children.
Being able to have a baby is anything but a given, but being asked when you’re having children pretty much is.
So why do so many think asking about children is everyone’s business?
I guess many of us have grown up in settings where it’s the norm. It’s also (meant to be) an easy and happy conversation or at least a bit of gossip – everyone loves feeling like an insider. BUT given that we have the option of being more considered and empowered, let’s make more interesting and less intrusive conversations, shall we?
In a work setting, it is actually against the law in Australia to ask about a woman’s intention to have children.
So there’s that. Don’t break the law. But what asking more broadly?
Yep. It’s time to stop asking.
You will be told if you are a close friend, confidante or the person is up for telling you that day.
Stop asking when someone is thinking of having children and especially don’t try to hurry them along or mention their age and fertility.
I’ve heard all of these things, in fact, all have been said to me and much worse, to people I love going through IVF, miscarriages and other fertility struggles privately, in addition to those who decide they simply just don’t want to be parents (and yay for them! To have choice is a wonderful thing).
Hearing these struggles is excruciating to witness (I’ve tried to divert and change subjects many times) and I can’t even start to imagine how awful it is to experience.
Here’s the reality: You have no idea what others are dealing with.
The shear number of women going through IVF (I mean 1 in 6 couples have trouble conceiving) or miscarrying (1 in 4 pregnancies) is staggering. Do the maths and assume that everyone has a story, or at least that they could.
When it comes to people who are struggling with falling or staying pregnant.
Fertility, conceiving and bringing a child into the world is one of the clearest examples where you can give your heart, soul and wallet out and not get the outcome you want.
The yearning for children can be so loud it screams in your ears (it was for me).
If you are reading this and going through the struggle or come to the end of the road with trying, you have my heart.
Here’s what I want you to know, because I know you may forget or be hard on yourself.
Firstly, you are not broken or faulty. Not even one bit. You are divine and precious.
Life is not fair and you have done nothing to deserve this challenge, grief and pain.
Also, no one did anything to ‘earn’ their children. I think by now we can all agree that getting and staying pregnant is a combination of dumb luck and a miracle (I say this as a scientist!).
You don’t have to be okay about it (in case you think you have to be fine about it).
Please don’t let yourself become isolated. It’s likely that you’ll have some very dear friends with or without children who will love and support you til the end of time. Tell them how you feel – that sometimes you enjoy seeing families with children and other times you resent them like crazy, your stomach sinks when you see them and you want to burst into tears.
They’ll get it as much as they can and your friendship will not just survive, it will in most cases become stronger. The bonus is that they can be a source of change too and make others aware of not asking assumptions about other people’s reproduction!!
But most of all, I want you to know that you are much, much more than your ability to conceive or whether or not you become a parent.
Your life is about much more than parenting (as mentioned earlier, at a deep level women have not been socialised to believe this truth).
You’re whole life matters. You are a gift to the world.
So I invite you to feel all your feelings and to feel hope twice or three times as much as you currently do.
Hope for how spectacularly beautiful your life will be with or without children.
Hope for the incredible impact you will make in the world.
Hope for your capacity to cope with anything life throws at you with time, love and tenderness.
Hope that the best is yet to come.
Conscious ambition is all about embracing where we are and our unique blend of talents, passions and skills to live with purpose and maximise our fulfilment.
Whilst I can’t help your family dreams come true* or stop that annoying colleague who thinks they can talk you into having children, I’d love to help you shine and to use your brilliance to get the most from your working life.
What do you say? Feel free to make an appointment for a free one hour coaching session below.
*Support helplines (thanks to Andrology Australia)
Australia’s National Infertility Network is a independent, non-profit consumer based organisation who represent a national voice for infertile men and women.
Phone: 1800 888 896
Australian and New Zealand Infertility Counsellors Association
The Australian and New Zealand Infertility Counsellors Association represents the views of infertility counsellors to the Reproductive Technology Accreditation Committee, Fertility Society of Australia and the New Zealand Infertility Society.
Mensline Australia supports men who are dealing with relationship difficulties, particularly surrounding family break-down or separation. The service offers anonymous telephone support, information and referral for men around Australia.
Phone: 1300 789 978
Relationships Australia is an organisation that offers resources to couples, individuals and families to help enhance and support relationships. Offices are located in each state.
Phone: 1300 364 277
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. Did you see that I've made a free video series to help you make your next career move with confidence? Five Steps to Career Clarity will come straight to your email, complete with new tools and insights for you. Just sign up in the form below - you can also click below to see yours truly introducing the series!
What to do when you don't want your calling.
Does this feel familiar to you?
You get quiet, listen to nudges and start getting the sinking feeling that what you are being called to do (whether you see this as in internal longing or part of something bigger) is not what you want.
It sucks but it happens quite a lot.
It happens to me semi-regularly.
Photo by Christian Holzinger
Does this feel familiar to you?
You get quiet, listen to nudges and start getting the sinking feeling that what you are being called to do (whether you see this as in internal longing or part of something bigger) is not what you want.
It sucks but it happens quite a lot.
It happens to me semi-regularly.
The first calling I REALLY really really railed against was to train as a coach.
Oh God, really? Do I have to become something so lame and so visible? What were all my academic colleagues going to say? Would I lose all my credibility? Would I lose my income and security?
It all sounded way too hard. It felt terrifying. Uncomfortable. Very.
Unfortunately, at some level it also felt bloody fantastic.
Damn.
So I gnashed my teeth and got a little braver every day about it. I dared to daydream about the possibilities.
Look where I am now! L.O.V.E. loving it! Seeing client's lives change and buzzing off their buzzing!
But I'm in the middle of another calling I don't want now. One to be much more into my spiritual life.
Oh Lord. No. Anything but.
More meditating and prayer even. Prayer, what?!
Holding more deeply the pain and needs of those here and around in the world.
Honestly. I. Dont. Want. To.
Living into deeper integrity too. Yikes. I'm talking not even smiling when I don't mean it.
More of what some call woo woo and others call plain delusional. Stuff that frankly has been a big part of me for, well, forever but I am scared to really embrace.
I don't feel like I have the time, the patience or the emotional bandwidth.
I couldn't think of anything worse in so many ways. It scares the pants off me. It presses all my buttons. Isn't it always the way!
Just today I was doing media training at university and loving being an expert sharing the evidence I have worked so hard to collect and understand.
I've realised that my greatest fear is that I wont be able to do that anymore, that I will be discredited and the change I'm working for in the world of research will be dismissed because of my spiritual beliefs.
But then I remember that no-one discredited Einstein because of his spiritual beliefs, nor my Dad's petroleum technical advice to government because of his religion.
So today I'm being brave, because I know the brave road is the road to freedom and wholeness.
What brave road could you decide to take, ever so slowly and gently?
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. Are you ready to thrive at work or uncover your calling? Book in a complementary hour session to get going!
There is so much more to say about this! If you would like private support to help you thrive in a competitive work environment (or to transition out of one), I can help you feel 100% better at work and start the new year in fine form!
Pop your details in below and we can have a complementary hour session to get going!
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. Did you see that I've made a free video series to help you make your next career move with confidence? Five Steps to Career Clarity will come straight to your email, complete with new tools and insights for you. Just sign up in the form below - you can also click below to see yours truly introducing the series!
What to do when you don't know what to say about gender, 'race' and other big issues.
Here's my imperfect take on how to be a force for progress and fairness in these crazy times, even when it feels scary.
It feels like a lot of horrors are coming to the surface right now in the world.
It brings up our own experiences, fears and sorrows.
We can feel powerless, hopeless and overwhelmed.
Then if the horrors don't directly impact us, we can go back to our usual lives.
That's because horrors aren't evenly spread across our world or our country.
It depends on our location, the colour of our skin, our religion, our sexuality, our gender, our incomes and so on.
But it occurred to me that despite how sad and infuriating and bloody awful things can be there is plenty of work we can do that is simple and influential. Political activity is always part of this but this blog focuses on what you can do everyday that will become simple, powerful and useful in creating positive change.
Photo: Roman Kraft
It feels like a lot of horrors are coming to the surface right now in the world.
It brings up our own experiences, fears and sorrows.
We can feel powerless, hopeless and overwhelmed.
We can feel, or in fact be, attacked or under threat.
If the horrors don't directly impact us, we can go back to our usual lives.
That's because horrors and most big issues aren't evenly spread across our world or our country.
It depends on our location, the colour of our skin, our religion, our sexuality, our gender, our incomes and so on.
But it occurred to me that despite how sad and infuriating and bloody awful things can be there is plenty of work we can do that is simple and influential.
Political activity is always part of this but this blog focuses on what you can do everyday that will become simple, powerful and useful in creating positive change.
Here's my imperfect take on it.
Think about anytime you learn about something that is new and challenging for someone else.
As I was part of a Peter MacCallum Cancer fundraiser on Tuesday night, I'm thinking about when you first know someone with cancer*.
You learn about it by reading up about it, listening and supporting.
You believe their experiences.
You learn what is the worst thing to say (immediately apologise if you stuff up) and learn how to stop others from making the same mistakes.
It becomes normal to love that person and respect their journey where it started off awkward.
You let their pain hit your heart when you can hold it well and not have it pour back onto them (that is extra labour they could do without, in many instances).
This cancer example speaks to how to work with issues that sit outside of your experience because you have the privilege of health.
The horrors of the world that are so front of mind, the everyday violence against women, the plebiscite to indicate approval of same-sex marriages and the everyday oppression of people of colour can be part of your story or stand outside of it.
You see, I can be devastated as I understand more and more the deep and pervasive impact of racism and discrimination on individuals, communities and countries but as a white woman, I can also step away from it.
On the other hand I can mourn my experiences as a woman and those of other women but I can't step away from them, even for a day.
Despite how much courageous, wise souls have fought to make the world more just and equitable, more embracing of diversity and difference, despite all the research that says it is good for EVERYONE to live in a fairer society (even if it just means the super rich are less likely to be robbed) there are plenty of people angry, asleep and paralysed that would benefit from good role models - you.
Importantly, there are endless people in your world who will benefit from having an ally to help support and advocate.
So can you use the cancer* example to work consciously with these hard issues?
I know you can because I bet you already have learnt how to be a great ally in other instances that feel less terrifying to 'stuff up'.
You can listen, support and believe.
You can learn what is offensive, apologise when you misstep (no one is perfect) and guide others kindly to avoid the same pitfalls.
You can let the horror of it hit your heart and feel sick about where you've been a part of it (most of us have) and it will soften your heart, not kill you.
You can move from tentative and a bit awkward to feeling more relaxed (though not the expert unless its in your life lane) when talking about sexuality, gender and 'race' oppression, poverty and so on.
The more people with lived experience are your teachers, the better you will do. We can't deem to truly know what it feels like unless we live it. That's okay, it's the way it should be.
Basically, you can help make life a lot better for people experiencing the result of old and pervasive discrimination today.
The keys are: to listen, to learn, to try, to apologise when you muck up (we all do, we are all learning) and to be conscious.
This is conscious ambition, dear ones and it's part of us all.
*Please note that I'm not comparing having cancer to being a woman, gay or black etc. - I'm just using the scenario as an example of respectfully learning, supporting and advocating.
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. If you are you ready to bring conscious ambition into your professional life, pop your details in below and we can have a complementary hour session to get going.
One facet of mental health you must know about.
It's mental health week and Lord knows it is a complex subject. There are so many reasons that we may experience anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar and other mental health problems.
I've become increasingly open about my own struggles with mental health problems, particularly anxiety.
I am an expert on anxiety!
I'm so grateful for the professionals and loved ones who have supported me work through the worst of it so that I am mostly very content and well today (and I know how to get back on kilter when I wobble).
Trust me when I say we can't afford to ignore our mental health.
Thankfully there is simple wisdom that we can all apply to make our mental landscape a million times better!
Photo: Brooke Cagle
It's mental health week and Lord knows it is a complex subject.
There are so many reasons that we may experience anxiety, depression, PTSD, bipolar and other mental health problems.
I've become increasingly open about my own struggles with mental health problems, particularly anxiety. I am an expert on anxiety!
I'm so grateful for the professionals and loved ones who have supported me work through the worst of it so that I am mostly very content and well today (and I know how to get back on kilter when I wobble).
Trust me when I say we can't afford to ignore our mental health.
Research tells us that there are problematic aspects of work that can lead even healthy people to experience common mental health problems like anxiety and depression.
Life can also throw up a whole lot that can tip us into mental health problems.
There are structural reasons that can lead to poor mental health (discriminatory systems) and issues in our upbringings.
So let's talk about one thing that can show up at the core of not only severe mental health problems but for each of us, regardless of our mental wellbeing.
One thing that we can act to consciously change and reap the benefits!
A serious part of common mental dis-ease is about rejection of yourself. All the small and large ways we have decided we are not okay, need to hide, should feel ashamed or are unloveable.
I am here to tell you, they are all rubbish.
It's time to drop the judgement and start to notice who you really are - and accept it!
Start playing with and observing the REAL answers to these statements, not the ones that you think will make you the most 'okay' 'acceptable' or 'high status'.
- How you like to do things
- What you enjoy, find entertaining, funny or enlivening
- Your energy levels and patterns
- Who you like to be around
- What work you like or love
- What you look like
- What exercise/movement you enjoy
- Where you like to holiday
- What colours you enjoy most
- What activities you like
- How you like to spend your time
The more you get to know and embrace YOU, the more you build self-compassion and build mental wellbeing (self-compassion is described as the one skill that can change the world - it will certainly change your world).
As I come to accept myself more and more I also accept the nature and callings of those around me. Gosh it makes life so much sweeter, less frustrating and more pleasurable.
I invite you to be kind and have hope that you can incorporate more self-compassion into your life.
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. Are you ready to thrive at work or uncover your calling? Pop your details in below and we can have a complementary hour session to get going!
There is so much more to say about this! If you would like private support to help you thrive in a competitive work environment (or to transition out of one), I can help you feel 100% better at work and start the new year in fine form!
Pop your details in below and we can have a complementary hour session to get going!
Much love,
Lara xx
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Bring spring into your life
I'm particularly excited about spring this year.
The flowers.
The sunshine.
The decluttering, cleaning and beautifying of surrounds!
Woop!
Let's use spring as a metaphor in our lives to work out where it's time to bloom, pare back or flourish.
Photo: Ryan Jacques
I'm particularly excited about spring this year.
The flowers.
The sunshine.
The decluttering, cleaning and beautifying of surrounds!
Woop!
Let's use spring as a metaphor in our lives to work out where it's time to bloom, pare back or flourish.
Apply these questions to any area of your life that needs some attention (the answers might surprise you!):
Q. Where are you holding back?
Q. Where do you need to declutter?
Q. Where do you need more beauty and colour?
Q. Where is overgrown and needs paring back?
Take one action step to bring spring into your life in response to the answers that come up for you.
It's time!
If you'd like help to revamp your working life, pop your details in below and we can have a complementary hour session to get going!
Much love,
Lara xx
P.S. Did you see that I've made a free video series to help you make your next career move with confidence? Five Steps to Career Clarity will come straight to your email, complete with new tools and insights for you. Just sign up in the form below - you can also click below to see yours truly introducing the series!
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