You want to make the most of your potential - I'm guessing this shows up especially at work.
To meet your potential, you need three things that are within your control.
A big reason why some women don't want to shine at work and beyond is fear of being disliked.
There's this notion that women with power, shining talents and confidence are wrong, nasty and somehow dangerous.
It's true, of course, that women with power are dangerous to the status quo as they often act differently to men ... and doesn't the world need that?
You’re smart. You know how to get things done under even the most trying of circumstances. You know how to keep most people happy and deliver a good result.
There’s one thing you might be ignoring though.
It’s the difference between getting through the day and thriving.
It’s the difference between burnout and excelling at a deep level.
Jacinta*, is a successful executive who, frankly, works her butt off. In her last role, she was carrying her team a lot of the time. There was a lot going on for her at work but what REALLY got to her was a colleague who left early.
Now when I say 'early', I mean, the colleague left at about 6pm each night (hours earlier than Jacinta). This colleague took vacations and even had the audacity to take lunch breaks each day.
There was plenty wrong with her colleague's performance at work but the final straw for Jacinta was this woman's work-life balance.
What feelings do you most want from your working life?
For most people I work with (and know) it's these things...
• Peace of mind
• To feel on the right track
• To make a positive impact on the world
• To have energy and feel good
To create these feelings, we need the right internal and external conditions.
When we want to do things differently in our life, we generally look for motivation to do it.
Something that KILLS ME is when clients try to find that motivation through harsh self-criticism.
You cannot berate yourself into changing your behaviours, thoughts, habits… not long term and for many of us, not short term.